We tried something new in bed and I can’t tell my wife I don’t like it

DEAR DEIDRE: MY wife came back from an Ann Summers party saying she was in the mood. She and the other girls had been discussing sex and my wife wanted to try doing something new that I had always thought was out of bounds. I’m 53 and my wife is 49. I was reluctant but she kept on, so we tried it a couple of nights later. My wife had the biggest orgasm I’ve ever known her to have and now she wants to do it again. I’m not so keen and find it a bit unsettling. Not only that, now she also wants me to slap her bottom while having sex. I’m worried about what she will ask me to do next. DEIDRE SAYS: Nobody should feel pressured into doing anything sexual they don’t really want to. Don’t agree to this kind of sex if it is not what you really want. Good sex is about your own pleasure as well as your wife’s. There are so many ways you can keep sex fresh and exciting – you should easily be able to find some happy compromises. My e-leaflets What’s Kinky & What’s OK? and 50 Ways To Add Fun To Sex can help you sort this. Get in touch with Deidre today Got a problem? Send an email to [email protected] Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays. You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page. Follow me on Twitter @deardeidre or write to Deidre Sanders, The Sun, London SE1 9GF (please enclose SAE). Popular Dear Deidre problemsfirst cut Caught my girl in bed with another man... then he did something I didn't expect SEX WITH SISTER I had sex with my sister and now we are having a full-on relationship HOTEL HELL My girl's wild step-sister seduced me in toilets and I'm disgusted with myself Little secret My brother-in-law is my daughter's real father... and my husband has no idea More, more, more! Hot romps with sex-on-legs housemate always leaves me wanting more FAMILY AFFAIR Family are furious over my hot sex with brother's sister in law Guilty sex I had hot Continue Reading

Hurting Vikings still processing what went wrong in Philly

Dave Campbell, Ap Pro Football Writer Updated 4:51 pm, Monday, January 22, 2018 window._taboola = window._taboola || []; _taboola.push({ mode: 'thumbnails-c', container: 'taboola-interstitial-gallery-thumbnails-5', placement: 'Interstitial Gallery Thumbnails 5', target_type: 'mix' }); _taboola.push({flush: true}); window._taboola = window._taboola || []; _taboola.push({ mode: 'thumbnails-c', container: 'taboola-interstitial-gallery-thumbnails-7', placement: 'Interstitial Gallery Thumbnails 7', target_type: 'mix' }); _taboola.push({flush: true}); Photo: Matt Slocum, AP Image 1of/7 CaptionClose Image 1 of 7 Minnesota Vikings' Case Keenum reacts on the bench during the second half of the NFL football NFC championship game against the Philadelphia Eagles Sunday, Jan. 21, 2018, in Philadelphia. Minnesota Vikings' Case Keenum reacts on the bench during the second half of the NFL football NFC championship game against the Philadelphia Eagles Sunday, Jan. 21, 2018, in Philadelphia. Photo: Matt Slocum, AP Image 2 of 7 Minnesota Vikings' Case Keenum walks back to the bench after throwing an interception during the second half of the NFL football NFC championship game against the Philadelphia Eagles Sunday, Jan. 21, 2018, in Philadelphia. less Minnesota Vikings' Case Keenum walks back to the bench after throwing an interception during the second half of the NFL football NFC championship game against the Philadelphia Eagles Sunday, Jan. 21, 2018, in ... more Photo: Matt Rourke, AP Image 3 of 7 Minnesota Vikings' Case Keenum reacts on the bench during the second half of the NFL football NFC championship game against the Philadelphia Eagles Sunday, Jan. 21, 2018, in Philadelphia. Minnesota Vikings' Case Keenum reacts on the bench during the Continue Reading

In Bed With the U.S. Army

This piece originally appeared at TomDispatch. In the eight years I’ve reported on Afghanistan, I’ve "embedded" regularly with Afghan civilians, especially women. Recently, however, with American troops "surging" and journalists getting into the swing of the military’s counterinsurgency "strategy" (better known by its acronym, COIN), I decided to get with the program as well. Last June, I filed a request to embed with the US Army. Polite e-mails from Army public affairs specialists ask journalists to provide evidence of medical insurance, a requirement I took as an admission that war is not a healthy pursuit. I already knew that, of course—from the civilian side. Plus I’d read a lot of articles and books by male colleagues who had risked their necks with American troops in Iraq and Afghanistan. What struck me about their work was this: even when they described screw-ups coming down from the top brass, those reporters still managed to make the soldierly enterprise sound pretty consistently heroic. I wondered what they might be leaving out. So I sent in a scan of my Medicare card. I worried that this evidence of my senior citizenship, coupled with my membership in the "weaker sex," the one we’re supposedly rescuing in Afghanistan, would raise questions about my fitness for missions "outside the wire" of a Forward Operating Base (FOB, pronounced "fob") in eastern Afghanistan only a few miles from the tribal areas of Pakistan. But no, I got my requested embed—proof of neither fitness nor heroism required (something my male colleagues had never revealed). In the end, my age and gender were no handicap. As Agatha Christie’s Miss Marple knows, people will say almost anything to an old lady they assume to be stupid. Boys and Their Toys Having been critical of American policies from the get-go, I saw nothing on the various Army bases I visited to change my mind. One day at that FOB, preparing to go on a mission, the Continue Reading

Tinder, the hookup app, now wants to put you in bed with a candidate

The minute you combine politics with guilt-free sex with multiple partners, both institutions are ruined forever. But that’s what Tinder — the hookup app — will do as it sets out on the ultimate unsexy mission: helping its customers swipe their dream candidate. Here’s how it works: As Tinder users go about their normal chore of selecting a would-be partner for the night, they’ll now also be offered a way of choosing a different kind of strange bedfellow by swiping right (pro) or left (con) on a variety of current topics selected by Rock the Vote. QUIZ: WHO SAID IT? TRUMP, HITLER, MUSSOLINI OR STALIN? So there you are, people: The app that once stood for something noble — helping single people cut through the time consuming part of modern dating — will now hook you up with Donald Trump or Hillary Clinton. Tinder unveiled the app-within-an-app on Wednesday, but the company wouldn’t let journalists test it...unless they’re already on Tinder. Now, a lot of people say I should be on the swinging site, given all that I have to offer to humanity. But I’m very taken (sorry, world). Doesn’t matter: It’s no surprise who you’ll end up in bed with when you review the 10 issues in the survey : Legalizing marijuana (swipe right); same-sex marriage (right); drilling for oil and gas in America (left); raising minimum wage (right); stricter laws for online piracy (right); increasing education funding (right); abolish death penalty (right); decrease military spending (right); repeal Obamacare (left) and legal abortions (right). DONALD TRUMP TWEETS VICIOUS THREAT ABOUT TED CRUZ'S WIFE  I hope Bernie Sanders likes fat Jewish tax-and-spend guys from Brooklyn! I asked Tinder spokeswoman Rosette Pambakian if the app company worried that its sexy image would forever be tainted by jumping in the sack with the dirty Continue Reading

Judge Jeanine: The Establishment Wants to ‘Sabotage’ Trump and Is ‘In Bed with the Democrats’

Judge Jeanine to Trump Protesters: 'The Silent Majority Will Not Be Silenced' 'Shut Down Trump': Protesters Shut Down AZ Highway to Rally “‘Donald Trump must be stopped’ is the Republican Party’s mantra,” Judge Jeanine Pirro said in her opening statement on Justice.“Why?” she asked. “Why would Republicans try to sabotage their own front-runner and risk a Democrat winning the White House?”“I keep coming up with the same answer,” said Judge Jeanine.“The Republican establishment, elected officials and party leaders are in bed with the Democrats!”The judge explained:“If Hillary wins, nothing is lost for them, it’s business as usual.The lobbyists keep their offices on K Street, the pharmaceutical companies keep paying them, the unions keep adding to their pensions and the lawmakers get their reelection bribes – I mean contributions – while we the underclass work two and three jobs and rack up a debt our children and grandchildren will have to pay for generations!”Instead of supporting Trump – “the guy who keeps winning” – party leaders have talked about creating a so-called “‘unity ticket’ of other candidates to make sure he doesn’t win,” said Judge Jeanine.“To scare you into submission, they predict Trump cannot win the general election.”It’s because “party elders are petrified of Trump,” Judge Jeanine explained.“The man is beholden to no one. He wins, and it’s game over for the elite.”Watch Judge Jeanine's opening statement above, and read the full transcript below.And tell her what you think on her Facebook page or on Twitter @JudgeJeanine! 'Insurrection Is Coming': Watch Judge Jeanine Hit Back at Mitt Romney WATCH: Thousands of Anti-Trump Protesters Rally at NYC's Trump Tower The Economist Ranks a Trump Presidency As a Continue Reading

‘Sex and the City’ writer dishes on adjusting to married life in new book

Through countless cosmos, breakups, musings and pinings, we felt we knew her – well, the characters she helped craft anyway. As the Golden Globe and Emmy-award winning writer and producer of “Sex and the City,” Cindy Chupack was the poster single girl for the highs and lows on the quest for Mr. Right. So, now that she's married him, what does that mean for the rest of us ... No more comedy? Not a chance. In her latest book, “The Longest Date: Life as a Wife,” Chupack chronicles the vicissitudes of happily-ever-after-hood with the same brand of hysterical grit, love and heartache she brought to “Sex and the City.” In the show and elsewhere in her writing (she's also written for “Modern Family” and “Everybody Loves Raymond,” along with authoring a sex column for O, The Oprah Magazine), Chupack puts on display subjects that are rarely said, let alone celebrated. For example, in her previous book, “The Between Boyfriends Book,” she coins phrases like “sexual sorbet,” a palate-cleansing fling to remove the taste of the last relationship, and “premature ‘we’jaculation” — when one member of the couple uses the ‘we’ word too soon. In tackling taboo with humor, she's spawned a collective sigh of relief among those who recognize themselves in her stories. The same philosophy is deeply embedded in her new book, which is the basis for a forthcoming Fox TV pilot by the same name, though the characters have been renamed to provide a platform for fiction. Thanks, in part, to shows like “Sex and the City,” cultural taboos have been steadily removed from lots of topics. And yet, signing up for marriage, she's found, still comes with a gag clause. “All the girls that I used to talk to about everything — everyone kind of closed ranks when they got married,” Chupack told U.S. News. “There's a lot of reasons Continue Reading

For two Syrian brothers, a new home in Milwaukee

As Michal Chabo drifts off to sleep, his Milwaukee apartment recedes into the darkness and he is back in Syria, running for his life, pursued by fighters from the Islamic State. The fighters shout, "Nazarene! Nazarene!" the Arabic word for “Christian.” They know he is one, and if they catch him, they will kill him.On other nights, he says, it is soldiers from the Syrian regime in pursuit. If they catch him, they will force him to serve in the Army, carry a rifle and kill others.“Always at the end, they are very close, face to face,” says Michal, 26. “But I open my eyes, and I see myself in my bedroom, and I thank God like 10 million times.“I don’t have to kill or be killed.”In 2012, when Michal and his younger brother, John, fled Syria, ISIS did not exist. Since then, the terrorist group has become a chilling presence in a war the brothers now follow on the websites of CNN and the BBC, and through a group on Facebook.They came to Milwaukee a year after their escape from Syria. This summer their applications for asylum were approved and today they have jobs, friends and an apartment. John, 24, works at a Colectivo coffee shop; Michal works at the church they both attend, Eastbrook on N. Green Bay Ave.And 6,000 miles away lie the things they left behind.Their beloved city of Aleppo with its cobblestone streets and ancient churches built inside of caves — much of it now rubble.Childhood photographs, posters of their Christian band and other treasured possessions — everything that did not fit inside the one suitcase each man packed in 30 minutes.And their precious musical instruments, all except the single guitar their father risked his life to save.There was no looking back the day the brothers made their run. Helicopters circled Aleppo, firing down into the city.• • •They arrived in Milwaukee on Jan. 28, 2014, knowing no one and carrying next to nothing. At that point, few Syrians Continue Reading

‘Glee’ ‘Duets’ recap: Episode 25 sees Brittany and Santana have girl-on-girl make out session in bed

Two cheerleaders in bed together, one deflowering and no big messages? Nice. Can't say it ranks with the series' best or even its second-best, but it's a step up from last week's moroseness and for that, I'd thank the Grilled Cheesus if Finn and his cast-iron stomach hadn't eaten it. Schuester, inspired by last season's "Defying Gravity" diva-off, is turning the week into a competition. Whoever has the best duet wins a dinner for two to Breadsticks. Which, evidently, is apparently the ONLY restaurant in the universe the Gleeks occupy. Don't these people have a freaking Applebees or something? The bad news is: Puck's in jail after stealing an ATM (Sue also takes a powder this week, so we're sadly short on snark), but luckily, Sam is waiting in the wings and Schuester wastes no time in bringing him into the fold. And thus begins our night of evil machinations. And since the theme of this episode is duets, and the focus is on the kids since the adults are more or less nowhere to be found, you know what that means: we get a full-on, no-holds-barred look at how absolutely insane the Gleeks really are. Evil machination of the night #1: Kurt lays eyes on Sam and within thirty seconds, his gaydar immediately starts buzzing like a vuvuzela. Finn, who's seen that look in Kurt's eye before, informs Kurt -- in a way that's long on honesty but short on sugar-coating -- that for new guy Sam to duet with openly gay Kurt will put a bullseye on Sam's back, and that Kurt's bound not to care because he's kind of a super-aggressive creep when it comes to guys he likes. Kurt does some sleuthing to find out if Sam's gay, but can't get a concrete answer. He is, however, convinced that Sam dyes his hair, which the newbie denies. Kurt goes to his on-the-mend dad for some support, but Papa Kurt found out during the hiatus about Kurt's stalkerish wooing of Finn, and he sides squarely (although a bit more tenderly) with Frankenteen. And thus fails evil machination #1. Evil Continue Reading

Sex survey is lesson for ‘Harry’: Perform well in bed and ‘Sally’ won’t have to fake it

Nothing's changed since Harry met Sally. The nation's biggest sex survey since 1994 found that either guys are kidding themselves about their prowess in bed - or lots of ladies are faking it, like Meg Ryan did in that unforgettable scene in the 1989 Nora Ephron classic. That's not the only gender gap revealed in the massive study, where Ph.D.s at Indiana University called 5,865 Americans and asked them about their sex habits. I have a question for the researchers: How did your parents react when you told them you were going for a Ph.D. in sex? Also: How do you get that many strangers to not hang up when you ask them about their sex habits? But 2,936 men and 2,929 women from the ages of 14 to 94 - yes, 94, and that was a woman - agreed, and the results are a bit of a surprise. Like the fact that more young women than young men reported having had sexual intercourse during the previous year. More girls aged 18 and 19 are having scootie when only about half boys that age are, and 80% of women aged 20 to 24 report going all the way, with only 62% of guys that age getting lucky. I guess, like elephant seals, a few of the males get more of the action. For the rest of their 20s, men and women are in a dead heat, and life is a beautiful double rainbow, as the man on YouTube says. It's downhill after 30, when a quarter of the ladies are not getting any action at all. Is it because they are not looking superfine in their Christian Louboutins and teeny Topshop dresses? That they're not trying to keep hope alive with every appletini?Heck no. We suspect the answer is back at the "Harry Met Sally" statistic: No matter how many kundalini yoga teachers try to teach guys more about ladies' pleasure, they're still not getting it - and women are more interested in a reflexology rub at Happy Feet or curling up with a Nora Roberts novel and a pint of Ben & Jerry's AmeriCone Dream come nighttime.The experts at supersexy Indiana University Continue Reading

BUBBLING UP: Prices have gone up so much in Bed-Stuy that investors are calling it a day

Prices in Bedford-Stuyvesant have gone up so much that investors are bailing out, a trend that could finally allow people who actually want to live in the neighborhood to buy there. With rents starting to stabilize, investors who bid up Bed-Stuy prices for the last few years no longer see enough potential upside to buying there — a shift that temporarily halts one of the speediest processes of gentrification the city has seen in recent years. “It seems like the Bed-Stuy market has topped out,” said Michael Weiser, president of GFI Realty Services, a commercial real estate brokerage that’s done deals in the neighborhood. “Returns have come down tremendously. That ocean has been fished out.” What’s the deal? Bed-Stuy gained traction as the next hot Brooklyn neighborhood more than three years ago as its quaint Victorian-era townhouses became hot commodities for investors, who aggressively outbid real people, scooped up buildings, rehabbed them and quickly resold them for massive profits. In a hot market, investors can skew real market prices because they are willing to pay way more than end-users. In Bed-Stuy, this meant a bubble: The median price for a multifamily building in the neighborhood has risen to $975,000, up from $652,500 in the same period two years ago, according to the real estate website PropertyShark. Land prices have gone up even more, with the median price for a vacant parcel of land topping $808,000 compared to just $235,800 two years ago. Prices for single-family houses are way up, too. The median price for a brownstone in the neighborhood hit $1.47 million in the fourth quarter of last year, up 47% in just a year, according to a recent report. “We would never be able to afford to buy in Bed-Stuy today,” said Roxane Danset, a 36-year-old fashion stylist who bought a two family brownstone on Stuyvesant Ave. with her family in 2012. “We wake up every morning Continue Reading