Could ‘micro-cheating’ be good for your relationship?

"Micro-cheating" is the latest relationship buzzword to ricochet around the internet - a space that is already overly saturated with phrases to make us question our relationships. As you can maybe imagine, the phrase describes certain actions that aren't as awful as your partner kissing or sleeping with someone who isn't you, but that still make you feel like you've been cheating on. But what is micro-cheating, exactly? In an interview with Huffpost Australia, dating expert Melanie Schilling defined it as "a series of seemingly small actions that indicate a person is emotionally or physically focused on someone outside the relationship." She then goes on to list actions that range from fairly innocuous to maybe sinister - from having private jokes with another person, to keeping their name under code in your phone. >> Facebook group exposing cheaters was allegedly breaking law Others mention less impactful behavior as signs of micro-cheating. Liking an Instagram post, thinking about another person, and checking an ex's social media all fall within this definition. And that's the issue. These small interactions may make you uncomfortable, but that doesn't mean your partner is cheating on you. She argues that it's important for couples to have interactions outside of just their relationship. "We need a healthy mix of interactions to sustain our relationships," Stubbs says. "It's unhealthy for our partners to be our entire lives." There's also something more sinister lurking beneath the surface of this idea of micro-cheating - it's relationship control, repackaged in a cutesy little name. "By labeling all of these minor infractions as cheating, you're putting pressure on your partner to behave a certain way, which can translate to emotional abuse if left unchecked," Stubbs says. When you call otherwise innocent actions "cheating," you're actually being controlling. The term also assumes that everyone has the same views about what Continue Reading

Startups, Deals, Parties And Pals: Will News Exec Levinsohn Repeat The Past?

Media Facebook Twitter Flipboard Email Enlarge this image Ross Levinsohn (right), with his frequent business collaborator, James Heckman, at a 2014 iHeartRadio party at CES in Las Vegas. They are accompanied by Heckman's wife, Emilia. Bryan Steffy/Getty Images for Clear Channel hide caption toggle caption Bryan Steffy/Getty Images for Clear Channel Ross Levinsohn (right), with his frequent business collaborator, James Heckman, at a 2014 iHeartRadio party at CES in Las Vegas. They are accompanied by Heckman's wife, Emilia. Bryan Steffy/Getty Images for Clear Channel Editor's note: This story contains language that some readers may find offensive. One of the nation's most important newspaper companies is attempting to shed months of labor strife, leadership crises and financial challenges through profound transformation. That extreme makeover started this week at the Chicago Tribune. It is to radiate out to the company's other major regional dailies. To sketch out its larger vision, the company, called Tronc, has placed its bets on its chief digital executive, Ross Levinsohn. He is perhaps best-known as a consummate salesman. He is an executive and investor with a mixed record defined in part by glamour and controversy. Journalists at the Los Angeles Times, Tronc's largest property, have questioned whether the company's executives are making decisions in their own interest rather than the best interest of the paper's journalism or the company's shareholders. In a previous job, Levinsohn successfully urged his corporate employers to acquire a company that he helped found. Similarly, while he was working for Tronc as a consultant, Levinsohn introduced Tronc executives to the CEO of another startup he co-founded. That CEO sought to persuade Tronc to invest in the startup. In his current role, as CEO of Tronc's digital division, Levinsohn stands to influence what tens of millions of Americans read under the brand of some of the Continue Reading

HuffPost: Justice strategy plan signals shift away from Obama priorities

Washington (CNN)A draft of the Justice Department's priorities over the next five years reveals an emphasis on cracking down on leaks, targeting undocumented immigrants and stopping gang violence, according to a copy obtained by HuffPost. The blueprint sets a new course away from the Obama administration's goals of civil rights enforcement and reduced prison sentences. Attorney General Jeff Sessions' draft plan outlines four goals for the department -- border security and enhanced immigration enforcement, violent crime prevention, counterterrorism and promoting "integrity, good government and the rule of law," according to the news outlet. As part of its counterterrorism mission, the draft plan also calls for Justice employees to "aggressively investigate" internal leaks of classified information, the HuffPost reported. The blueprint also specifically names the MS-13 gang, the brutal street gang that President Donald Trump has vowed to destroy, HuffPost reported. Read More Justice Department spokesman Ian Prior declined to comment on the draft strategic plan, but said in a statement it "is not final until the attorney general signs it." "As he has not yet done so, we cannot comment on unofficial documents that we have not seen or reviewed and are not in final form," Prior told HuffPost. He continued, "That said, the attorney general has made clear that his goals are to protect our national security, reduce violent crime, combat the deadly opioid crisis, enforce our immigration laws, and restore the rule of law." CNN's Laura Jarrett contributed to this report. Continue Reading

Ginnie Graham: HuffPost finally wakes up, puts traditional journalism back in place

A copy of my old journalism law book, opened to an earmarked page about the U.S. Supreme Court case dealing with the Pentagon Papers, was posted online. It wasn’t really my copy, but that of a college friend who works as a journalist in Dallas who kept the textbook. Goodness knows we paid enough for those books. She recently saw “The Post” and decided to take another look at that case and re-read the biography of Washington Post Publisher Katherine Graham. After the image of the textbook appeared on social media, it started talk of lessons from college journalism classes and time spent on the student newspaper. To date, I’ve gotten more mileage out of my Oklahoma Open Records and Meeting Act handbook, published by the Oklahoma Press Association, than any law book. Unfortunately, the chipping away at transparency makes an update every two years necessary. This reminiscing happened a week after HuffPost announced it was doing away with its unpaid contributor network of writers. The network had inspired other websites to solicit free work under the guise of great exposure — a ludicrous and patronizing logic. This sweatshop of about 100,000 working-for-free writers will be replaced by more experienced journalists writing in the categories of opinion and personal — essays, celebrity interviews and lifestyle pieces. Editors will be working with the staff, who will receive compensation. It’s a return to a traditional journalism model. Finally. The advent of the internet brought about a Wild West of free news that skewed consumers’ expectations. Traditional outlets and newspapers made mistakes in giving away content. Consumers didn’t put it together that it costs money for people to gather and present information, be watchdogs over governments and industries, keep tabs on community activities and create entertaining stories. Millionaire Arianna Huffington jumped into this fray by founding the Huffington Post, which Continue Reading

A fitting conclusion to a whirlwind month of political news

Ashley Parker, The Washington Post Published 7:41 pm, Wednesday, January 31, 2018 And on the 31st day of January, the news gods gave us: A train crash involving Republican lawmakers, the unexpected retirement of a powerful House chairman, dropped federal corruption charges against a sitting Democratic senator, the resignation of a top federal health official amid reports she purchased tobacco stock, and an FBI statement expressing "grave concerns" with President Donald Trump's expected decision to allow the release of a controversial classified memo slamming the agency. And that was just the first half of the day. The news maelstrom was also a fitting coda to the capital's whirlwind January, which never let you catch your breath. It began with the president taunting North Korean leader Kim Jong Un that he had a "bigger" and "more powerful" nuclear button on his desk, proceeded to waltz through rumors of a possible Oprah Winfrey 2020 presidential run, and ended with a State of the Union address Tuesday that by now many people have probably forgotten. As a HuffPost headline summed up the past 31 days: "What a year this month has been." Local Channel Now Playing: Now Playing Pickup truck T-bones sedan on rural S.A.-area road, killing woman San Antonio Express-News Galveston PD releases image of 'Little Jacob' Galveston Police Department Man found covered in blood after crashing car into ditch San Antonio Express-News Man+killed+by+police+after+stealing+bike%2C+riding+onto+Loop+410 Jacob Beltran Police: Drive-by gunman fires 30+ rounds into home, strikes man San Antonio Express-News Woman killed as firefighters battle flames for hours San Antonio Express-News SAPD: Man catches 2 suspect breaking into car on West Side, opens fire Caleb Downs Kawhi Leonard's Relationship with Spurs Is Just Fine, According to His Uncle Sports Illustrated Shots fired call near Alamo Heights prompts large police presence Fares Sabawi UTEP Continue Reading

HuffPost Wants To Be The Internet’s Fighting Tabloid

The new editor-in-chief of the renamed HuffPost says she's positioning the site in the spirit of the best of tabloid journalism."The great tabloids were always driven by a sense of outrage, you know a sense of righteous indignation...and had this sensibility of, like, there are people out there that are trying to screw you—and we’re going expose them for it," Lydia Polgreen told BuzzFeed editor-in-chief Ben Smith for the podcast Newsfeed with @BuzzFeedBen. "The tabloid is fundamentally an emotional form of journalism."Polgreen left a meteoric career at the New York Times to take over the Huffington Post from its founding editor, Arianna Huffington, earlier this year. Huffington left her with a giant digital footprint but a political identity that had lost its edge since emerging as a voice of the American left after the 2004 election and a pillar of Barack Obama's 2008 campaign for president. Now, Polgreen said, she's steering directly into the populist moment, and aiming to write not about, but for, people who feel "screwed" by the existing power structure.Polgreen also broke the news in the interview of a major hire: Jim Rich, who turned the New York Daily News into a confrontational national voice on the 2016 election with a series of front pages mocking, usually, Donald Trump.Rich, who will be Executive Editor, "is great combination of a kind of old school tabloid reporter and editor’s sense for what’s a great story, but he’s also incredibly passionate about social justice," Polgreen said.("I think [Daily News columnist] Shaun King called him 'the most woke editor in America,' if that’s a compliment," she said.)"I think — as I believe Lydia does, as well — that the cutting-through-BS nature of tabloid journalism is what's needed more than ever at this moment in time," Rich said in an email to BuzzFeed News. "I've always believed there was a journalistic sweet spot halfway between the high brow of the New York Times Continue Reading

Former Fox News host Eric Bolling’s son’s autopsy completed but cause of death still mystery

Ex-Fox News host Eric Bolling’s son’s autopsy has been completed, but the coroner’s office in Boulder, Colo., won’t reveal the cause of death for another six to eight weeks. Eric Chase Bolling, 19, was found dead in an apartment building in Boulder Friday, the Boulder County Coroner’s Office said. An investigator with the coroner’s office – without revealing Bolling’s cause of death – said the office would continue to investigate the case. The elder Bolling confirmed his son’s death in a tweet Saturday, and said in another post that there was “no sign of self harm at this point.” Bolling was studying economics at the University of Colorado Boulder. On social media, the ex-host would share photos of him and his only son spending time together. “Dad/Son Colorado Easter weekend. A true blessing,” Bolling tweeted in April. Northern Valley Regional High School at Demarest in New Jersey, Eric Chase’s alma mater, had grief counselors at the school Monday. “The district is deeply saddened by the passing of Eric. He had a lot of good relationships here at the school,” Northern Valley Regional High School District Superintendent James Santana said in a statement to “As a district, we wish to communicate to the Bollings that they are in our thoughts and prayers," he said. "Anytime we lose a graduate it hurts the community,” Santana continued. The younger Bolling’s death came after Fox News axed his father over sexual harassment allegations. A HuffPost report said Bolling had texted photos of his genitalia to three female colleagues. Bolling has denied the claims and is now suing the HuffPost reporter for $50 million. Sources told TMZ that Eric Chase was going through “emotional torture” because of his father’s firing from the Continue Reading

STASI: Fox News’ Eric Bolling is the latest fool to sext women unwanted pics of his tool

Working at Fox News must be like living in Anthony Weiner’s shorts. Every time you think they’ve got their male members under control, another one pops back up. Now it’s Eric Bolling, longtime Fox News host/co-host of news shows such as “The Five” and “The Fox News Specialists,” who has been accused of texting unsolicited pics of his moving man parts to horrified female colleagues, according to HuffPost. What was he trying to do — seduce them or sicken them? Whatever he thought he was doing, he clearly believed was that he wasn’t making public the identity of his private parts. Oops. He/they/it got ID’d quicker than “CSI” can ID fingerprints on a glass. No, it’s not because his accusers recognized the junk-out-of-his trunks but because the news putz’s (and I mean that literally) phone number was visible on the texts. Never send a dirty middle-aged man to do a pervy young man’s job. Clearly, the atmosphere at Fox was such that the accusers may not have felt comfortable going to HR, but why they didn’t go to the authorities has not been explained. Fox informed the Daily News of its plans to investigate the newest allegations—and then Bolling was suspended Saturday. More puzzling is Bolling’s “excuse,” which his lawyer, Michael J. Bowe, tried to peddle to the HuffPost “Mr. Bolling recalls no such inappropriate communications, does not believe he sent any such communications,” he actually said, “and will vigorously pursue his legal remedies for any false and defamatory accusations that are made.” What? He believes that Bolling doesn’t believe he texted out his tool like a fool, but if did do such a thing, he doesn’t recall it? Either Bolling’s got a fool for a lawyer, or he’s got tremendous mental problems. Or both. I pick both. Continue Reading

Alleged Fox News sext perv hits reporter with $50M defamation suit

A suspended Fox News host accused of sexually harassing colleagues is now suing the HuffPost reporter who broke the news. Eric Bolling filed suit Wednesday against Yashar Ali for damage to his reputation and other claims worth over $50 million. Bolling’s accusations were only addressed in a summons in Manhattan Supreme Court. More details are typically included in a civil complaint, which has not yet been filed. Ali, a contributor to the site, reported last week that Bolling sent a text of male genitalia to two colleagues at Fox Business and one colleague at Fox News. The network suspended Bolling following the report and said it was investigating the matter. “Just received a summons. Eric Bolling is suing me for defamation — $50 million in damages. I stand by my reporting + will protect my sources,” Ali tweeted. “It’s important to note that Bolling’s summons does not include HuffPost — he is coming after me personally. I’m a big boy . . . but very telling.” Ali went on to say he is not intimidated by Bolling. “Not going to stop reporting on Eric Bolling or anyone else,” Ali tweeted. “I’ve had family members killed/jailed in Iran, a lawsuit isn’t going to scare me.” The suit was filed by Michael Bowe, an attorney at the law firm Kasowitz Benson Torres. A call to Bowe wasn't returned. The firm’s principal, Marc Kasowitz, is President Trump’s longtime lawyer. The summons accuses Ali of “reckless publication of actionable false and misleading statements about the plaintiff’s conduct and character.” “This anonymously sourced and uncorroborated story is false, defamatory, and obviously intended to destroy this good man’s career and family,” Bowe said. Court documents said Bolling was “substantially harmed” by publication of the story. Editors at the website stood by Continue Reading

CNN’s list to replace Piers Morgan includes Rosie O’Donnell (good odds) and Ann Curry (a long shot)

CNN honchos have been busy putting together a list of potential Piers Morgan replacements to host a nightly chat show much like his failed one, and [email protected] has learned which names are being tossed around. “Rosie O’Donnell is at the top; the rest are Joy Behar, Ann Curry, Anthony Bourdain, David Muir, Star Jones, Anderson Cooper and Rachel Maddow,” one person with knowledge of the list tells us. “Most of the people that are being considered are ones that either create news, are going to make news or have rated really high on television in the past.” A minor issue for most of the ones at other networks, such as Curry, is that they are already under contract. “But contracts are made to be broken,” a network insider sniffs. “Piers Morgan Live,” whose 9 p.m. time slot had previously been Larry King’s, was canceled this week after some of its lowest-ever ratings at a time when CNN head Jeff Zucker is trying to fix the struggling channel’s lineup. Rosie O'Donnell is said to be a favorite to replace the departing Piers Morgan. Considering the early list, MSNBC’s Maddow is in an interesting position, having beaten Morgan in the ratings nightly, sometimes by more than 600,000 viewers. If she ever gets the job, she can gloat — Morgan dislikes her and has publicly bashed her on Twitter numerous times. In May 2013, he tweeted tauntingly, “Breaking News: Oops @maddow,” attaching an article about her then-sagging ratings. O’Donnell is a longtime TV host and producer who could turn the slot into ratings gold. Daytime talk host Wendy Williams said on her own show Wednesday that “The View” should bring her back. “They have to do something. Barbara Walters is leaving,” Williams said. “Whoopi (Goldberg) has said before that she’s just there for the paycheck, so Whoopi doesn’t care about sitting in the Barbara position Continue Reading