Adapted from a recent online discussion.Dear Carolyn:My significant other asked me last weekend if we could commit to a one-year embargo on any discussion of our own future children. We are planning on getting married within the next two years and we know we both want children eventually, but it makes him nervous -- I would actually describe it as anxious -- to think or talk about the particulars, to the point where a fun evening can be ruined if I so much as ask what he thinks about a particular baby name. I think his feelings are valid, but to have such a big topic taken off-limits makes me feel distant from him, and it also prevents certain important logistical discussions, such as about where we're going to live when our lease expires.Is it fair of him to ask me for this embargo, or should I insist he face his fears even though kids are years away?-- VirginiaDon't "insist" that he discuss something important, no. Instead, insist upon an answer from yourself:Are you ready to be … [Read more...] about My boyfriend doesn’t want to talk about having kids: Carolyn Hax
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Orchard Park, N.Y. -- Buffalo Bills running back LeSean McCoy heard about the trade rumors that were reported Tuesday claiming Philadelphia officials called the Bills about a potential deal for McCoy after Eagles running back Jay Ajayi went down for the season with a torn ACL. But the 30-year-old running back didn't want to give his feelings about the potential trade other than to say he shouldn't have been traded the last time it happened. "I just stay focused," McCoy said. "I should have never gotten traded (from the Eagles to the Bills in 2015). I was killing stuff. I don't ever really pay too much attention to it." Buffalo Bills coach Sean McDermott knew the questions were coming about the McCoy rumors and he wanted to get out in front of the situation right away at Wednesday's press conference. "LeSean's one of our better players I thought he had a good game the (against Tennessee) and really we're just looking forward to playing the Houston Texans," McDermott … [Read more...] about Bills’ LeSean McCoy, Sean McDermott don’t want to talk about trade rumors
Sunday July 22, 2018 12:01 AM Stopping suicide starts with stopping the silence, she says By Karen ShueyThe emotional anguish Evelyn McCloskey feels will never totally vanish.It will lurk beneath the surface for the rest of her life.She understands that, accepts it. But she also knows the more she tries to bury her misery and refuses to confide in others, the more likely it becomes that her wounds will remain exposed."This can be hard and upsetting for me to talk about - but that's the point," she said. "The public needs to be upset. They need to hear our stories and realize that suicide can happen to anyone. There are no boundaries to this problem."McCloskey says talking about suicide isn't an easy task. But she believes it's a necessary one.And so do the experts.A report from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention released last month shows suicide is an escalating crisis across the country and across demographic lines. The rate of suicide nationally increased 28 … [Read more...] about A grieving mother wants us to talk about it
Why do you love murder? Tara Jacoby for Observer I have a confession: I love murder. I belong to the growing community of (mostly) women who guzzle stories of violence like they’re warm cups of Kool-Aid. Stories of violence have become part of the fabric of my daily life. I listen to the wildly influential podcast My Favorite Murder when I’m cleaning my room, I watch old episodes of Law and Order: SVU as I pump away on my basement treadmill, and sometimes I like to fall asleep to the dulcet tones of Karina Longworth waxing poetic about famous dead blondes. I devoured this spring’s buzziest book, I’ll Be Gone in the Dark, in a single, stressful evening.Like many American women, I’ve been fascinated by the looming specter of stranger danger since childhood. As soon as I realized I was a walking target for a certain kind of predator, I began to gather stories of dead girls. I wanted to know everything about these victims—maybe if I knew … [Read more...] about Why Do You Love Murder Shows? 10 Women (and a Guy Named Bill) Explain.
By BEN MONTGOMERY, KELLEY BENHAM FRENCH and THOMAS FRENCH They were here because of Parkland. And before that: Sandy Hook. Before that: Columbine. Outside, as the sun came up, kids wearing "March for Our Lives" T-shirts clogged the streets carrying signs that read "Protect kids not guns." These 21 strangers gathered inside, away from the noise. They had traveled to Washington, D.C., about a month after the Parkland shooting, not to march, but to take part in an experiment. They were victims of gun violence, and gun collectors, and cops and lawyers and hunters and teenagers and moms. Could they do a better job talking with a group of strangers than they had managed to do with their own families? Could they agree on some measures to mitigate the crisis? Could they have a productive conversation, or even a civil one? A gun, by its nature, is a polarizing thing. A gun forces us to envision ourselves on either one end of it or the other. A gun is an equalizer, a tool, a symbol of liberty … [Read more...] about From banning them to embracing them, a group of Americans got together to talk about guns