Dear Annie: My co-worker, “Jane,” is the front-desk person and has a bird’s-eye view to everything. For the past several years she has noticed that it appears that my supervisor is having an affair with another co-worker. I, too, have noticed what appear to be signs of an affair. Although I do not approve (if this is the case), I am able to work without it disturbing me. Recently, it has started to affect my co-worker so much that she is now saying that this a hostile work environment. My question is this, should I mention something to my supervisor before my co-worker takes it to HR? She has threatened to do this, but she is the type who is normally all talk no action.I feel uncomfortable saying something to my supervisor, but if it got as far as HR then I would feel disloyal for not having given him a warning. I don't know how to handle this sensitive situation. -- Awkwardness at the OfficeDear Awkwardness: First, stop chatting with Jane about the alleged affair. … [Read more...] about Does a colleague’s office affair create a hostile work environment? Dear Annie
DEAR ABBY: I am a woman who has re-entered the dating pool after a few years of being single. I have gone on some amazing dates with fabulous men.I met someone online last summer. “Miles” had a similar story -- long, bad marriage and now living life to the fullest. I adore his personality (and looks), but I have never met him in person. We talk often, sharing dating stories and everything else, knowing it won’t go anywhere as he lives 1,000 miles away. We have developed a strong emotional bond and have become great friends. My emotions have now moved past friendship. I believe Miles can sense it because he has pulled back a little. I know realistically it won’t work due to the distance. My kids are still in school, and I’d feel guilty asking him to move away from his business, kids (grown), parents, family, etc.Should I quit talking to him altogether, because apparently I can’t keep it where it has been for the last several months? We agree that we … [Read more...] about Dear Abby: She’s smitten with a man she met online but he’s 1,000 miles away; how does she forget him?
By CAROLYN HAXDear Carolyn: My fiance and I are planning a Hawaii wedding. We’re from the east coast. We would love for all of our family to make the wedding, but we understand some of our family and friends won’t be able to make it.I have an aunt who is notorious for influencing others to make family vacation plans within driving distance because she has a fear of flying. That fear is now interfering with our wedding. She is not willing to come to Hawaii due to that fear, and now her parents and her siblings are frustrated with us for planning a wedding that is not within driving distance. Are we crazy to think this day should be about us and should be where we want it? Or should we fold and have the wedding somewhere she can drive to it? Am I being an ungracious bride?My family can't seem to understand there will be an irreparable rift between my aunt and me if she ruins yet another family event.-- T.(END ITAL)Aloha-Oy.Please, stop. "There will be [a] rift"? Only if you … [Read more...] about Carolyn Hax: Selfish aunt threatens to derail Hawaii wedding over fear of flying
CORVALLIS – We all make gardening mistakes, some more serious than others. Planting an invasive plant will plague you for years. Putting the right plant in the wrong place can be fairly easily resolved by taking up a shovel and moving it. At a recent meeting of the Oregon State University Extension Service Benton County Master Gardeners, those attending participated in a light-hearted competition detailing one thing in the garden they wish they’d never done or alternatively something successful. The top three stories won gift certificates and the best went to Nancy Tovar, a master gardener since 2016. To balance the “oops” stories, Jesse Garcia, who won second place, recounted a positive tale. Tovar, who moved to Oregon in 2012, recalled planting fennel in her South Carolina garden with high hopes of using it for cooking. But soon things started going wrong – or so she thought.“After I planted the fennel, I went out to check on it and there were tiny … [Read more...] about Even master gardeners make mistakes; here’s what they’ve learned from them
By Douglas Zimmerman, SFGATE Updated 11:30 am PDT, Tuesday, April 23, 2019 Kevin Durant attends SFFILM Festival 2019 Red Carpet Arrivals for 'Q Ball' on April 11th 2019 at Castro Theatre in San Francisco. Kevin Durant attends SFFILM Festival 2019 Red Carpet Arrivals for 'Q Ball' on April 11th 2019 at Castro Theatre in San Francisco. Photo: Drew Altizer/Photo - Drew Altizer Photo: Drew Altizer/Photo - Drew Altizer Image 1 of / 32 Caption Close Image 1 of 32 Kevin Durant attends SFFILM Festival 2019 Red Carpet Arrivals for 'Q Ball' on April 11th 2019 at Castro Theatre in San Francisco. Kevin Durant attends SFFILM Festival 2019 Red Carpet Arrivals for 'Q Ball' on April 11th 2019 at Castro Theatre in San Francisco. Photo: … [Read more...] about Kevin Durant walks red carpet as documentary’s executive producer