By CAROLYN HAX (Adapted from a recent online discussion.) Dear Carolyn: Recently a middle-aged person told me that they wouldn’t want to live past the age of 80. I’m in my mid-70s, and still working full time at a job I love in a field I’d be happy to pursue at least part time as long as I’m able — think past 100, if I’m lucky! My feelings are really hurt by this person’s expressed view, and I feel it is ageism. I was too stunned to reply at the time, but now wonder what I should have said? Nothing snarky. — Hurt I’m curious about your reasons for taking it so personally. To me it just sounds like ignorance. With some tone-deafness thrown in, given the audience. If there’s a next time, then a plainly stated, “I hope I have more than five years left, but I speak only for myself,” would get any necessary points across. As for whether it’s ageism, yes, it is, since this person basically said a life after 80 has no value. But I’m struggling with a way to say this … it doesn’t sound like mindful or purposeful ageism, but instead flippant and… Read full this story
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